I have a new stalker.
Or maybe it's just the way that Japanese men flirt with girls? I'm not sure.
This young, good-looking Japanese guy who hangs out at our local wine bar has taken flirtation to the next level. Not only did he propose marriage with the promise of us living a happy life in Marugame (honestly my worst nightmare), but he's been drunk calling me at 3am, begging me to come over to his house to meet his family. A few times I've checked my phone and saw that he called six times in a row. Oh, dear.
He also said things like:
"I want to see you NOW"
"I go to your house"
"I like you. I love you!"
Which sound creepy, but I think it's just a matter of limited use of English, so I should not be concerned. He's friends with a lot of my friends, and he is not a psycho, but somewhat intense. It's a little bit funny and a little bit scary at the same time. He should perhaps learn that being so insistent does not actually smitten me.
Does he actually want to come to my house? Am I invited to his house for dinner? Does he think we're engaged? Should I be worried? He's usually terrified of me in person, as I'm very intimidating to Japanese guys (he doesn't even sit next to me at the bar), but he's pretty straightforward on the phone. He certainly has no problems dialing away in the middle of the night.
I used to have a stalker in Korea, at the gym.
I could say that it's something that usually happens with Japanese and Korean men, but it's not all true. Since I moved to Marugame I also got stalked by fellow foreigners, but I won't get into that, I'm afraid some of them read this website.